Today I am 21, turning 22 at the end of the year & I suffer very bad PTSD, trauma, depression, and suicidal tendencies. For those who are like me feeling depressed and helpless sometimes, you are not alone. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on January 25, 2018: Follow YOUR dreams, your mother is a soul destroying person. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on June 20, 2018: Get help & DISASSOCIATE yourself from your family. And all through that time, my parents and other family members tied to Grandma all thought I was taking advantage of her. Continue to seek self-improvement and one day we can pass through this. One day I got a line drive for my glove as I was daydreaming out there but I moved my hand to miss because I thought it was going to hurt my hand. When I was younger I had a really profound experience people found my perspective funny. Obsessing over a child's grades and making that the determining factor for your happiness as a parent is a bad decision. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. I joined the choir thinking it will help me boost my confidence but I've bn in the choir getting to a year hving never sang and I feel depressed and useless because I want to pursue music as a career but hw can I be a shy musician? Like there was really no real reason to do anything. I am perfectly happy with what I do. I went to university despite her and worked in the IT sector. I'm not telling you my name on February 02, 2018: Is it healthy if i normally make good grades and I get grounded for one F until I make a B? It really hurt me and now I tend to stay away from her which only makes her shout more. If you want to get notified by every reply to your post, please register. Just makes me sick. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on July 03, 2020: Talk to a trusted relative about this. Question: If you know that your father was from a family of people who homicidally hounded family members to suicide by crushing their self-esteem, is it normal to continue hating such a person until old age? Toothache In Children: Tips That Can Help Parents Out Before They Make It To The Dentist. However, this has the opposite effect and gives the child a permanently poor body and self-image. However, they are doing irreparable damage and making their kids quite dependent and indecisive regarding the simplest life choices. Question: I think my parents wanted a perfect child instead they got me. Those who are constantly compared to others have a diminished sense of individuality and ultimately come to believe that they are worthless. This is wrong as each child is unique. When i showed them my grades mom was like "meh.. You were always that good" but dad was proud of me. I've never had money so I've never been able to take care of myself. This content is accurate and true to the best of the authors knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional. But what if there was a better way to inspire change in your kids? Doing this will allow the child to develop competence and a positive sense of self. Title says it all.. My parents only care about my grades. In these parents' purview, their children are incapable of doing anything for themselves. i dont like the consequecenes. This has ruined a career, now I have to retrain for something else. Answer: In families where there are 2 children or more, parents compare children. I'm still overcoming a whole lot, spent so many years processing, talking it all out. My mom is not as bad as my dad. WOW!! Support the choices they make and the lifestyles they want to live. Answer: Your father is an abusive parent. I'm 13 and 6'2", makes me feel way too self conscious, Press J to jump to the feed. One thing for sure, Determination and Perseverance never fail you! One day, your parents won't be there and you wish they were. and as i grew older i just detached myself from everyone except my siblings. The other day she told me she she'd never forgiven me for accepting a biscuit from a neighbour when I was just 3. Her mother never gave that to her. My mom didn't even practice with me. I do everything my homework I go to tutoring, I even prepare to exam that is gonna be 4 years later! My Mother is most of these, my mother scares, lowers self esteem, makes me feel under aprisiated, and gets angry at me for little things. WHat should I do? At least that what my family says. The creativity of a child multiplied by the pain their guardians put into their hearts felt like torture camp. Yesterday a coworker threatened to beat me up and shoot me. But I can't say I'm surprised anytime there is a tradgid headline on the news, hate breeds more hate. last bit would be that my mother wouldn't praise any of the good i did, she would be so uninterested that slowly i just stopped caring for my family's approval while also stopping what i loved doing. When I was growing up I never hung out with my dad. You don't need such people in your life. Childhood is a time to freely explore, try on different personas, and fall on your face. Your performance in school is measured in an identifiable way (your grades) and see what needs to be improved or what you are strong at. But why, would I ever intentally harm anyone or anything? Adults are just perverts to kids. Friends need to settle their own problems. my parents always tell me how am disappointing and how I will fail my tests. Question: Why do my parents get mad at me for being sad, grumpy, or having a mental breakdown when they are the reason for my mental pain? I've tried reaching out to people for help. Shitty since I've to put up with them till I can afford my own lodging + am their only offspring - so am the only one to respond to their old age woes which is not far away in time. Such parents demoralize their children in one way or another. We want to hear from you! There also where a lot of little other events between mom and me that resulted in me feeling like shit all day and now that my dad moved out as they divorced the one person who cares about me is not here as often anymore. They've ruined most of my life & crushed my self-esteem. So it doesnt really even out when my parents point out my flaws. Whenever I try to talk to them about how I feel, they yell at me. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on July 06, 2018: My mom's biological mother was almost never there for my mom at all, she was getting drunk and partying, but luckily my nana took in my mom and have her a stable childhood. Raising A 'Teenager From Hell'? scars on my Back ! Every school shooting has a reason why, and if you actually knew everything rather than what little you are told, you would probably at least understand why it happens. But I don't feel I'm ready yet. I just photoshopped my report card my entire highschool career. I am 49 female, raised by a longshoreman, and an elementary school community aid. Often, the comparison does the opposite. How to Make Life Easier for you and your Kids. Felt aweful. They contend that following the consensus offers a sense of belonging and security. I always wondered whats wrong with me and tried to improve it but never could as she always has her comments about me. Many parents fail to realize this. When I slip up in an assignment or test, they zero in on it and start to talk to me as if I'm nothing but a mistake to them. Of course in the darkest moments, you think of hurting others. They're only happy with me unless I did something exactly to their expectations. The problem is that this approach doesn't turn your children into lifelong learners. I saw through it at an early age as be never had our backs or supported us emotionally or mentally .., sad. This is so refreshing to know that there are people out there with similar experiences - When my parents lash on me talk me down , have me stand with my brother if he did wrong , you know the past days has been terrible for me , i have been searching the internet and seeing that i was abused all of my life from sleeping on the bare floor to being whipped with wires and canes naked to punching me in the face and i must just stand there and not cry or say a thing because my father used to say when i beat you ! Really thankful for it, I've been trying to be super human. Each day, I'm taking small steps in battling my own emotions and to constantly remind myself to live life to the fullest. Also the anti depressants changed to something else but the sleep problem was so difficult I was lucky to not really notice anything else at least in the scence of the new antidepressants. My perspective at least. The violence at home had gotten so extreme I'd vomit before class so my stomach would be in less knots. Instead, parents should encourage their children to develop a sense of independence and respect their authority at the same time. They still came in first, they didn't need me anyways. DON'T LISTEN to SMALL MINDED people! If your parents are not receptive to counselling, go by yourself. Sleep Deprivation, Behavior, And Academic Performance, I Caught my Child Smoking Marijuana (Pot) Again, Caring For Elderly Parents At Home: How To Cope. I hope Killing Myself would be better than living in meaningless life. 1 Find other relatives who love & care for you. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on June 14, 2018: DON'T KILL yourself. Not being in your child's life can greatly impact there self-esteem and self worth, it can make them feel like they're not worth anything, even your time. But when I get told that and try to do what I want I get a "No John, that's a terrible idea." Discover short videos related to parent only care about grades on TikTok. Answer: Discuss the matter thoroughly with your parents. Not to also mention here that the phrase "they know about everything" including about me. These are the books we're crushing on this winter, 6 valuable lessons we learned from the Frog and Toad books, The difference between young adult and new adultand why it matters, Your step-by-step schedule for the ultimate New Year's Eve, 5 holiday dessert recipes you need to start making every year, 5 things to consider in your college search, Affordable birthday gifts your bestie will love, How to *actually* get stuff done when you're tired. Imagine a league of kids with low self confidence. And i often doubt whether my parents really love me. Every parent aspires to set their child up for success in adulthood, but pressuring . You should either discuss this matter w/a trusted relative. They often attempt to gear their children into "more realistic" careers and aspirations, ones that are "workable" and "secure." Also develop self-confidence, you are a beautiful, worthy person- a child of God. i would really appreciate the feedback and the suggestions of what i should do Etc.. umm, here's what i did, im old though and idk if you can still get away with this. . Internal beauty is far more important than outer beauty. Who knows what happened to them to want do that to me when I was a kid, the adults I'm talking about. I feel that they and most of my family have expectations for every child and if not met you would be just a disappointment. How can I explain them that we are modern teenagers that want to have fun! Yes, overprotective parents are abusive parents although such parents present a "loving" faade. They taught me to shoot for the stars because if I . Talk to a school counselor regarding your parents. Went to Mazatlan every summer for about 1 month at least everyone of those 18 yrs. Kids are sadistic with one another. Not just kids but teachers and teacher assistants too. Dear Carol, Most parents, unfortunately, have this mindset. It important for me to get a good education so incan go to. Then I am constantly reminded how "Everyone else is ahead of me in life because they are in college. But I runs in the family I guess. My mother has always treated me as an idiot. Emotional & Mental Health Emotional & Stress Management Relationship, Friendship & Family problems My parents never understand me! What iconic squad matches you and your besties? Mom keeps restricting me, nagging me if she doesn't satisfied with everything I did. Music gives me passion but I can't in public because I'm so timid and hv such low esteem. He obviously loves you. You and your mother need joint counseling. Answer: You and your mother should do joint counseling. I hesitate to feel proud of myself ever because in scared that my parents won't look at it to be proud of. I'm now 62. I have every characteristic from being an underachiever to timid. Struggling to cope with things beforehand were fine to me. I thought they were going to kill me. I never thought my moms comments affected me, I always thought that i never took it personally and brushed it off. They believe individualities are flaws that need correction. Question: Why do my parents always compare me to my sister? and im scared to confront. So if a young one dares to have a unique, creative, and innovative thought or idea, it is squashed and often labeled as outlandish and weird because nobody else thought of it! If you are old enough, implement ways to move away from your father. they make me work for all the free time that i have then get mad when i stay up at night because it's the only time i have to actually relax. He found a new wife.Aaand now i have a sister She is like 8 years younger than me.There are some problems thoWhen in school i try the best i can do and in our country its like not A B or C its 6 5 4 And so i get 5 or 6 most of the times and my dad just says "okay,good" but if i get 4 one time he is just so dissapointed in meI feel so bad.Even now thinking about it .Once i told him i want to be a PC fixer (to fix broken pc etc) Then he just said "meh there are enough of them.."Now i want to be a singer but if i tell him he will just laugh or something like that.He wants me to be like himliterally.Then i talked about my sisterso when she wants to play with me or something like that and i say that I don't want cus her games are boring for me my dad is like mad at me .. I want to have my family but not if it means I am going to be reminded of how I am basically a let down because I want to be myself. Grew up thinking they were the best due to their work successes. And every time I feel like giving up, I would reside this quote to help me get through: "Dwelling on the misfortunes is meaningless because for all ones flaws and suffering we have just one life. Never picking the right man? Answer: Your family situation is toxic. That was an example of parental alien affection .., learned this in divorce law how parents pitnchildren against parents.. thats wrong and cruel .. I now only see her so that I don't get cut from her will, but I'm emotionally divorced from her. Then I was expected to babysit my siblings and cousins full-time. Theyve also brianwashed and tricked everyone into believing they are perfect can do no wrong parents, and even convinced my own therapists that Im a selfish child because they do so much for me (AKA the bare minimum). I cant wait until I get to leave but Ive still got to wait another 5 years. I hung out in my cave like room or over at my friend's house as a teen. All three of us are crippled to think on our own and in deep resentment and depression. Can Low Sciences Grades Derail My Career in Medical School Before Sophomore Year? You feel that whatever your sibling does for good or bad, you feel somehow that you are responsible for your sibling's actions when such isn't necessarily the case. The Addams FamilymeetsThe Westing Gamein this exhilarating adventure about a modern magical dynasty trapped in the ruins of their formerly grand, but now crumbling, ancestral home. but whenever i talk to them about these thoughts, they insist it's because i havent eaten properly. There is no need to take a negative tone when speaking to a child about the mistakes they have made. Your father is making you dependent as an exercise of his power. They do not view their kids as thinking, independent, autonomous individuals in their own right but instead as automatons and pieces of property that they can dictate and program at will. "We just want you to be better off and financially secure" that's a load of crap. I know school can be difficult and you will mess up quite a few times. Whenever I try to talk to them about how I feel, they yell at me. Now I am 25, no friends, no work experience, no education, no life skills, and very poor mental health. Being an overbearing parent leads to pushback from the child and is not worth it in the long run. Here are the ten things parents do that can destroy their children's self-esteem. I sat in my room crying until i eventually ran out of tears or dad came back from home and hugged me. i felt i wasn't loved and when i said that i was beaten for it. What if that way was to change your own attitude and approach? my mom does all this to me. and it lowers my self-esteem. I've had a single person stick with me for the last ten years. POSTED IN School, grades, problems with my parents, my parents are way-strict. head wounds ! Children need praise in order to assess the positivity of their performance and to continue with such behavior. Real Example: We got our grades of the Chemistry exam today, i read the question wrong, i read Beta Particles instead of Alpha Particles, but i answered the question right if it was talking about Beta Particles so basically i answered it right, in a way. Her parents were lazy, uneducated, and short-sighted. Truth. Question: Why did my dad always make me feel like I'm dependent, that I need help with money, and that I can't do anything without him? Each child is unique. Everyone in my family are all doctors and engineers. They're very emotionally and mentally abusive (They stopped the physical abuse once I reached 15). My mom is the only one nice to me. You are a worthwhile, beautiful person. An hour is a pretty short time. If I ever have children,I would never treat them the way my mother treats me.So, one day My moms phone buzzes.My mom is busy,so I look.And Im scrolling and I see that my mom and sister are having a conversation back and forth.And I read a text message thats my mom wrote that said,I never said she was perfect,but she isnt a smart ass.It Hurted me so bad And when I read that.It felt like I got hit by a car,and felt as if I was punched in the stomach.My self esteem went down so quick.No kid should ever feel that way like their not smart,or good enough.For all those parents reading this or people who plan on being parents,dont ever treat your children child like that.You May think,its nothing,but the pain and rejection stings so bad.And you may forget all about it.But the child will remember it forever.Its a scar that will never heal. Im not really praised as much as my sister is. It's also about enjoying the process. and if you ask me.. i dont care as much about grades, for me.. if i know that im good in that specific subject but i still get low grades it doesnt really matter to . i have no time to relax. I'm so depressed right now. I'm not saying it isn't tradgid, I'm asking how you can be surprised. my parents only care about my grades. Disassociate yourself from this family & find people who respect/love you for what you are. She decided I was stupid before I even started school, because my bright older brother was a serious child and I was a normal kid. Family Troubles-Parents Divorced, Low Grades, Feeling Alone? Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on August 03, 2018: Please seek counselling. Ever since i was a child i had developed depression because i was always in such a negative space. They took possession of her Xbox, limiting how often she is on it all because they don't want her to get "addicted". Smothering your child will lead to resentment later in life, and it is not a healthy way to raise children. Question: What should I do when my mother prevents me from doing things I want? Teach your child that no one is flawless and that everyone makes mistakes. Really I'd put my soul in it. Joint counseling will get issues out in the open. I have some gear so ill start practicing without rest. Then they learned the truth. If you're trying to get your self-confidence and self-esteem levels up after years of living with critical parents, here are some steps you can follow. They want their kids to be perfect because perfection = success. Anyone raised by authoritarians like this becomes timid and submissive. I feel like if I'm not serving someone, my life has no purpose. Im 16 and i have an incredibly stressful life 6am - 10 or 12pm everyday. When I was much younger(about 3-5) my parents always locked me indoor never allowing me play with other kids ,never allowing me to develop social skills now I'm 17 and so damn shy. I don't think she knows how to help me anymore. Your father is insecure as he is threatened by your independence. Discuss her concerns w/her. You should first discuss this matter to your father; however, if he isn't receptive, discuss the matter w/a trusted relative or better yet, a counselor. Your mental health, however, is more opaque. Those who are constantly compared to others have a diminished sense of individuality and ultimately come to believe that they are worthless. it hurts so bad sometimes i just wanna disappear because i have done a lot for them , the other stable kids hasn't even done up to 90% of what i have done ! He exemplifies the immature parent. I don't care really anymore, I have my own drive now. Sick of It. My dad never molested me. Focus on building your child up and preaching positivity. The worst thing parents can do is to OVERPROTECT & INFANTILIZE children. I know where I've come from, what I've endured and experienced, and I've let others know about my life experience too; so if I go, people at least will know. I'd be better if being fertilizer to sustain something else life. I've dreamed of being a country singer-songwriter my entire life but my mom has crushed my dreams at every turn. Both my parents are like this. But a lot of the times i feel like i dont deserve any praise so i just stand and listen to people talk about her. He's Spanish and Mexican. Takedown request | View complete answer on hassaanhamid.medium.com She went and sulked on me for days. No more getting grounded or bitched at etc. My meds have stabilized my mood. Contact the suicide hotline & call a counsellor & get counselling. Parents care more about their child's grades than the child itself. She wanted an education but they saw her merely as a means of supplementing their income. I got to see them again after a month. All my parents care about are grades. These parents are totally soul-destroying and killing the dreams of a potential Picasso, Einstein, Mozart, and/or free thinker. A family counselling session is needed. "She's rude, and who does she think she is thinking she can talk back to us like that. Do they want to live through you-you have to live YOUR OWN life, not THEIRS. Making mistakes = ineptitude + utter stupidity. You shouldn't have to endure such abuse from your mother & sister. I fully understand that my own upbringing - very strict an seemingly harsh - was luxurious and easy by comparison and that stops me from feeling sorry for myself. Parents often believe that if they extol the positive characteristics of siblings and other children to their so-called errant child, their own child will improve. (I am seventy-four.). Parents care more about their child's grades than the child itself. My Parents Don't Like my Partner (Boyfriend or Girlfriend), High Pressure for High Grades Leads to High Kids, Effective Ways to Talk to Your Kids so They will Listen, Boosting Your Child's Performance: Encouraging Self-Motivation, Why You Need To Sleep On It: Sleep Helps Your Brain Consolidate New Memories, Why Kids Don't Tell Their Parents They Are Being Bullied, And How To Spot The Signs. I just want to cry most of the time. (She's 92 and can't live for much longer). I know my parents love me and they are trying to provide me with the best life they can but they are so controlling. she shuts out my emotions. But I keep thinking back to both experiences and both they make me smile. This child begins to lose what sense of initiative and risk-taking that they have and thus they become extremely anxious and risk-aversive, often not electing to attempt anything for fear of failure. What NOT to do if you are the parent of a college student. I 've enjoyed this reading, nos I'am 60 years old, I lived difficult times when I was a child, fue this, I could not to be married, now I feel that need father's Love, I feel better when older men give me his friendchip. 1. And with the rules I don't mind following the rules no matter how stupid I think they are but they NEVER let me ask why. Answer: No, but I suggest that you obtain psychiatric counselling and disassociate yourself from your father. My mother never was used to hugs or praising. "He just kept saying over and over: 'In our family, that's not acceptable.' I didn't know what to say to him. My parents were quite pushy about grades with my brothers. Haven't seen or talked to them in months now. I'm so shy but I refuse to blame my parents because they thought they were helping me. Question: I feel like my parents do not trust me. Kids reveal their parents care more about academic achievement than kindness . Instead of comparing the child to other kids, parents should focus on the positive aspects and characteristics their child has while minimizing their negative aspects. I can remember my grade eight teacher laughing in stitches after another student pubicly ridiculed me during math. Parents expect many things from their offspring, but the most valuable thing in their eyes is good grades. Instead, parents should encourage their children to pursue their dreams and let them figure out if their dreams and goals are reachable or impossible. My dad works 4 am - 8pm so he is just too tired to react or support me. My mom doesn't value creativity or musical talent, so I'm forever a disappointment. No counselor/psychologist. So when I was growing up I never felt like I belonged. I have never even had a girlfriend not that I'm ugly but timid I lack social skills to approach a lady. What should I do? Parents should encourage their children to think outside the box and be creative. If your parents didn't love you they wouldn't care about your grades. If the child believes that they are stupid because they are a C student, they will become a low achiever throughout life, no matter what their human potential is. No it wasn't 0, it was worth 1/2pt! But of course my older sister and my mum constantly shout at me saying that i am going to fail all my exams, that i am hopeless and a disgrace. Since I was 20, I've been living with my grandmother who has Alzheimers. I dont want to blame anyone for the life I have." I think part of me is always looking to die. My mom is not as bad as my dad. An extremely conscientious A student of average ability may have to study all night to obtain those A's while a C student of above-average ability may be bored with school and have a more relaxed attitude towards their studies. Her love and support balance out the suffocating negativity coming from my father & help me believe in myself . What do I care? If you want to tell them how you feel but cant do it in a conversation, write it in a note. 1 Reply More posts from r/SuicideWatch 394K subscribers No_Investigator_7700 7 days ago By secondary school I was under-performing and lacked confidence. Dad is happy to just follow on a stronger mom simply because it absolves him of the responsibility. Many parents want their kids to be as physically and emotionally flawless as possible. She really really wanted an extremely smart kid. I spend my entire time doing homework and sometimes i have so much that i just simply forget some pieces. Conformity is a necessary thing in certain cases but parents should work on helping their child develop their unique talents while respecting the norms of society. Family doesn't mean blood all the time. I already told God and I know he's already helping me. You are precious to God. you dont cry now i see why he does that because that is clearly abuse i still have scars on my body physical scars ! 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